Every time I opened the cabinet door the dusty wine glasses looked down at me accusingly. I bought them to impress friends. I mean, that’s not exactly what my thought process was when I made the purchase, but essentially that’s the reason. They were used only for entertaining, as I prefer to drink wine from a small tumbler. After awhile I stopped using the crystal glasses because they were too tall and fragile to run through the dishwasher and a terrible hassle to wash by hand. They sat, gathering dust in the cabinet.
A move next year has me taking a critical eye to all my belongings. The wine glasses didn’t make the cut, so I let them go. It was a hard decision, not because of an attachment to them, but because I’ll never recover the money from a poor purchasing decision. I’ve learned though that the wine glasses and other expensive purchases bought for the wrong reasons have only given me a false sense of security and presented a lie of who I really am to the outside world. Ultimately it’s a relief not to have that reminder staring me in the face.
My method for getting rid of things that still hold value is one of three.
- I sell on Craigslist or on consignment. If after two attempts the object doesn’t sell, I give it away.
- I give to family or friends who will use and appreciate the item.
- I donate to charity. (I love a good score at the thrift store, so it makes me happy thinking that someone might feel they’ve hit the jackpot when they happen on my donation.)
I offered my wine glasses to my mother, who owns the same ones, but she declined them. (I’m guessing she feels the same way about her glasses as I did mine.) I then tried two failed attempts to sell on Craigslist, and finally donated them to charity.
Archana wrote a post on decluttering props (objects whose only purpose is “putting on a show for other people”), which gave me a great filter for not only getting rid of things, but for preventing unfortunate purchases in the future. Is the object for impressing other people, or is it something I really love and use?
Do you have expensive items that you’d like to get rid of but struggle to do so?